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Writer's pictureYolanda Durrah

Taboo Tuesday: The Inverted Narcissist—When Loving Means Losing Yourself


Ladies, gather 'round. Did you know that there are different types of narcissists? It's Taboo Tuesday, and today we're diving into the murky waters of the Inverted Narcissist. No, it's not a new yoga pose; it's that sneaky personality type that has you questioning your sanity while you’re busy fluffing your ego.


Who is the Inverted Narcissist?


Imagine a person who finds their life’s purpose in being the sidekick of a grandiose narcissist. They're the Robin to a twisted Batman, except Robin's self-worth is tied to how well he shines Batman's boots. They’re the ultimate enablers, sacrificing their well-being just to keep that toxic relationship afloat.


Red Flags Waving Brighter Than a Stop Sign


  1. Self-Sacrifice on Steroids: They constantly put their narcissistic partner's needs above their own. Think of someone giving up their dream job because their partner "needs" them to stay home and alphabetize their sock drawer.

  2. Validation Vacuum: Their self-worth is a black hole, seeking endless approval from their partner. If their narcissist isn’t clapping, they're not dancing.

  3. Blind Loyalty: They'll defend their partner's atrocious behavior to the death. If their narcissist says the sky is green, they're out buying green-tinted sunglasses.


Why You Should Exit, Stage Left


Being in a relationship with an inverted narcissist is like being on a sinking ship where the captain insists everything's fine while rearranging deck chairs. The trauma? Oh, it's rich:


  • Emotional Drain: You'll find yourself constantly giving, with zero returns on investment. It's like funding a startup that never launches.

  • Identity Loss: Over time, you might forget who you are outside of this relationship. Spoiler alert: You're amazing!

  • Mental Exhaustion: Keeping up with their validation needs is more tiring than running a marathon in stilettos.


Ladies, It's Time to Reclaim Your Power


Leaving such a relationship isn't just recommended; it's essential. Remember, self-love isn’t selfish; it's survival.


As a Master Self-Care+Healing Care Coach, a Certified Empowerment, Focus Mastery+Breakthrough, Mindfulness, Therapeutic Art & Self-Healing Life Coach, I help women with their goals in healing from being rejected and discarded and get back to their empowered selves. Together, we can set goals to recover from the stings of rejection and the coldness of being discarded. Let's turn that trauma into triumph!


Ready to flip the script? Let's chat. Because darling, you deserve a love that feels like home, not a battleground.

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