Hey, beautiful souls! It's time for another deep dive into those sticky, icky topics we often brush under the rug. Today, we're talking about something that makes many of us squirm – when someone is just a little too friendly with your partner. What's too friendly, what are those intrusive thoughts and actions that wave red flags, and what should you do about it?
First off, let's set the stage. We all want to be trusting and confident in our relationships. But there's a fine line between friendly and too friendly, and sometimes, it's tough to tell the difference. So, where do we draw that line?
What Is "Too Friendly"?
Too friendly is when someone's actions or words towards your partner start making you uncomfortable. It could be lingering touches, overly personal conversations, or even those flirty smiles that just don't sit right with you. Trust your gut – if it feels off, it probably is.
Intrusive Thoughts and Warning Signs
Constant Communication: If someone is always texting or calling your partner, especially at odd hours, it's time to pay attention. Casual acquaintances don't need to chat at midnight.
Personal Questions: When someone starts delving into your partner's personal life, beyond what’s normal for friends, that's a red flag. Why do they need to know every little detail?
Jealousy and Competition: If you feel like you're in a competition for your partner’s attention, that's a problem. Your relationship should never feel like a contest.
Boundary Pushing: Notice if someone tries to blur the lines of what's appropriate. Compliments are nice, but there's a difference between "You look great" and "I can't stop thinking about you."
What Should You Do?
Communicate Openly: Talk to your partner about how you feel without accusing them. Use "I" statements like, "I feel uncomfortable when X does Y. Can we talk about it?"
Set Boundaries Together: Decide together what's acceptable and what's not. Mutual respect is key.
Trust Your Instincts: If something feels wrong, it likely is. Don’t dismiss your feelings.
Address the Third Party: If necessary, have a direct but respectful conversation with the person who's crossing boundaries. Let them know what’s acceptable in your relationship.
Remember, ladies, your feelings are valid. Don’t let anyone make you feel crazy for having boundaries. Protect your peace, and don't be afraid to stand up for your relationship. After all, your love is worth it.
Stay strong, stay aware, and never settle for anything less than respect in your relationship. Until next time, take care of yourself and your heart.
Coach Yolanda Denise
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